a word to the wise

this year, being a sophomore, i have seen more roommate switches than i had ever thought humanly possible amongst the freshman class. girls, in particular, come to college deciding to room with their best friends because they just can't go another day without them, they feel lost when they're gone, etc. and it absolutely destroys their relationship. i have seen, in my own dorm, 5+ roommate switches in the first month or so this semester because they decided it would be a great idea to have their best friend as their roommate.


unnecessary drama, extended fights that would have blown over in ten minutes had you been able to get away from each other. these are the things that can potentially tear your relationship apart. now, some of you might have been through enough that your relationship can withstand just about anything. i commend you on that. however, that usually is not the case, at least from what i have seen! it has been interesting to me to see how things have turned out for students that have decided to stick with what they know and be roommates with someone so close.


i am here to tell you, i went potluck my freshman year, met 7 new girls that i lived with all year long and they are all still very good friends of mine. granted, i spent a lot of time outside of my room and with my best friends, who are still my best friends. however, i did not live with any of them. i think that is the significant difference between myself and all the other freshman girls that arrived this year. while i love all my friends, and having sleepovers and everything is great, you still need your alone time. you still need somewhere that you can call your own and get away from people. i learned that last year before i had the chance to damage any relationships and i am eternally grateful to my parents who recommended doing so.

so, a word to the wise, (whether you choose to act on this information is up to you) do not room with your best friend. you may live with them, be close, neighbors even, but do not room with them. who knows, you might have 7 new best friends.


ps.
strictly an observation. by no means do i know everything.