relationships

DISCLAIMER - i won't use any names, i don't want to throw people under the bus. and all examples are because of things i have witnessed, heard about. i do not side with only the girl or guy in any situation.

to the girls with a new boyfriend every week.
the guys that date a girl because she's "easy".
to the guys that decide they don't want a girl with her own thoughts.
to the girls that expect way too much from a guy. and vice versa.

i could go on for days...
unfortunately these scenarios are so common, no one thinks anything of them anymore. so what if a girl has a new boyfriend every week? i guess they just didn't get along well. FALSE. she doesn't know what she wants. she may not have gotten along with some of them, i'm not saying that's entirely false, but for the majority of her relationships, the guy was a dirtbag, he treated her too well, *insert excuse here*.

yes. i did say he treated her too well. when did that become a problem you ask? well, i don't know about ALL girls obviously, and i'm not claiming that i do. girls have a tendency to date guys that aren't worth their time, with the thought that they will be one day. that the girl can change the guy for the better. well honey, as nice as that sounds, it just ain't gonna happen. sorry... so when the girl realizes there is nothing to change about the ONE GOOD GUY they have dated, they can't handle it. it bothers them so much that it starts to make them think that he really is too good for her. so yes, it has even gotten to the point where the good guys don't stand a chance because they are too good.

guys, you don't want a girl that's "easy". lets have SOME class. or even pride. do you really want to introduce that girl to your family? do you see yourself in a serious relationship with that girl? cause i don't. sure, there are exceptions. but 9/10 times, that relationship doesn't last more then a month. just because a girl is quiet, or is more modest when she gets dressed in the morning, doesn't mean she's crazy or weird. it just means that she cares enough to protect herself from the morons that only like the easy girls. truth be told guys, girls see what you're doing. we aren't stupid. oblivious at times, tell ourselves it's not true because we don't want it to be, but we aren't stupid. i'm not talking about dressing like a nun. who really wants to do that. but because a girl doesn't wear a shirt that shows her stomach, has such a deep V that everything is falling out and skin tight booty shorts, doesn't mean she isn't worth your time.

now, as for the guys that give up on girls because they have their own opinions. shame on you. everyone is entitled to their opinions. everyone. man up, accept it and get to know her. it might cause some bickering, but just know that "to each his own" applies in any situation where opinions are involved. don't blow it out of proportion and bail just because you don't have the same favorite super hero and for some odd reason she thinks Batman is cooler then Ironman.

the most common problem i have noticed, especially after my first semester in college, is that girls are expecting SO much from guys. and guys from girls. we aren't here to wait on each other, we aren't taking orders. girls expect guys to be able to read their minds and just know what they should do, or what they have done wrong. i'm going to let you in on a little secret.... boys aren't superheroes. they really aren't even that super! stop expecting each other to do and be so much more then really needs to be done. you're just causing yourself more problems and setting them up for failure because there is honestly nobody on the planet that can successfully live up to all of our expectations.

give people a chance. get to know them BEFORE you make it "official". boys, take her out to dinner, compliment her. they like that. girls, stop looking for projects. you don't need to fix every guy you date, nor can you. enjoy your times together. who knows, you might last longer than you thought.

just remember, relationships are for when you're ready... not lonely.